We put a fair bit of thought into our ceremony. Our Celebrant was very patient with us, we kept chopping it and changing it around. We wanted it to be just right.
Here are the the highlights from our ceremony- our readings and our vows. I think you may have read them all at other places on the blog but I like to see them all in one post.
The first reading was Union by Robert Fulgham, which our celebrant used for the part of the ceremony where he usually describes what marriage means to the couple. We thought this reading summed it up perfectly and wanted it incorporated seamlessly into the ceremony, rather than announced as a reading per se. We got him to modify it slightly to better reflect our circumstances.
"You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married”, and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.
The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.”Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.
For after today you shall say to the world –This is my husband. This is my wife."